“Learn to say no without explaining yourself”
I often wonder why it is so hard to say “no” to someone? My girlfriend and I got onto this discussion as she was struggling to find her inner-power to say “no” in multiple areas of her life. This can become increasingly wearing on your energy if you do not learn how to set up boundaries for yourself. In her case – she was becoming burnt out.
Do you find yourself in situations where you are constantly being overloaded or boundaries being pushed? Maybe its at work, with family (as we are all aware of), maybe its in a relationship or with friends. Whatever situation it is, understand that it will continue to happen, day after day, month after month because this is the universes way of teaching you a lesson. Believe it or not, things will stop and you will become more empowered once you start using your inner strength to speak your truth and in this case, say “no”.
Additionally, I want to stress the fact that you need no reason to say no either. Why you are choosing to say no, is really of no matter to the other person. When I saw the quote “learn to say no without explaining yourself” it really hit home and gave me a new goal to strive for.
We are all on our own journey, and we must understand that. Be not only respectful of each other and our need for personal space, but encouraging. I am no different from you, you are no different from me; we are all a reflection of each other. Remember this as we lift each other up and work towards our goals; and todays, is to say “NO”.
When I struggled personally with this, I put Ghandi’s quote on my vision board until it no longer served me. “A ‘no” uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a “yes” merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. Stay strong, stay vibrant, stay happy!